Jennifer Garner, mother of two daughter, Violet, 4 and Seraphine, 1, has commited to raising her children. There’s an emotional struggle since she adore her work also,
“I adore going to movie sets and being part of a team trying to create something,” she says. “And yet, I hate to miss even one bedtime with my girls.”
Setting the warm and normal life just like Garner had with her mother for her daughters, to be here for them in anyway and time, make them breakfast, pack lunches and bake homemade bread, she says, “It’s what my mother did. She made every meal.”
Being able to enjoy at home while children taking their naps, dress casual and modest far to the galours indentity as celebrity, the Alias star is eating lunch to a little cafe near her L.A. home. “I’m privileged, beacuse I have a lot of freedom,” she says.
Being an actress and a full time mom is hardly to achieved, there’s always the quilt and miss in her heart while doing act or mom job. The 37 years old actress says, “My sisters both are working mothers,” she says. “I understand that my being an actress as well as being at home isn’t some heroic thing. That doesn’t mean it isn’t confusing or difficult—especially that question of how you find a balance.”
Having a husband that working at the same field, she shares the tips to keep the romance in the air, she says, “You steal the time, you steal a date, you steal a kiss, you steal a whisper. You sit next to each other on the couch with computers on your laps. After the kids are asleep you…well, you know.” She grins. “Whatever it is. You slip away for a night, which we’ve only just now done for the first time. Of course, I call home while we’re away. Ben would be surprised if I didn’t.”
On her play in Valentine’s Day with Julia Roberts, Jessica Alba, Jamie Foxx, and Shirley MacLaine. Patrick Dempsey plays her love interest, and she also ends up in a clinch with Ashton Kutcher. Garner’s telling her husband, Ben Affleck, about what she’s doing at work all day.
Garner admits she’s the most independence among her sisters, she puts credits on her parents to give her the stardom to choose her own path. “My mother and father always supported my passion for acting. I think they just kind of expected me to move to New York and become an actress and have all these adventures.” She shakes her head. “When I switched my major from chemistry to theater in college, my father never batted an eye. That was impressive when you think how hard they worked to save and put us all through school.”
We learn everyday, different than children whose studying at school, we learn from life, as mother, as worker and finding the partner of life. The actress who started her acting in TV series Felicity learn from the marriage she had with actor Scott Foley,
“I had a lot of growing up to do,” Garner says. “I’m still conflict-averse. I don’t like to argue. But back then I couldn’t have a fight. I couldn’t work things out because I wasn’t able to say what I needed to say. I didn’t have a voice. I didn’t dare to express myself. It was a huge heartbreak for me to have something fail like that. I knew that this was either an opportunity for growth or I would sink.
“It’s easy when you’re hurt and angry to just say, ‘Oh, it’s them,’” she continues. “But I had to come into my own. I thought, ‘Why did this relationship not work? What part of the failure is my responsibility?’ So I went to work on it. I started therapy.”
Garner gained a powerful self-awareness. “It’s not like I didn’t realize I had any issues until I got a divorce,” she recalls. “But I had this professional confidence that wasn’t equaled by my own personal confidence in any relationship, not just with men. There was a disconnect. I realized I needed to be more like my character in Alias, who was so powerful and confident and an inspiration to me.” She pauses. “I understood very well how to be nice and how to take care of people. I didn’t know how to ask for anything that I needed. It was important to balance it out.”
Glad met Ben Affleck when she was ready to have new relationship, she notes, “Well, it helped that we were both single at the time.”
She commends her husband as “a good writer,” pouring his dearest feeling and send it through email, Garner kept all those emails.
“He’s a very persuasive writer.”
Garner is close to her sisters, family and girlfriends, and it seems Ben doesn’t have any difficult way to be fit in the women atmosphere.
“He doesn’t have trouble wiggling his way in anywhere,” she says. “Ben is charm personified when he wants to be. He’s not easily threatened or made uncomfortable—he’s very secure in that way. Maybe he just knows I’m nuts about him, and he doesn’t have anything to worry about.” She adds, “Don’t forget we were friends first for a long time.”
She has the inner battle inside the struggle to juggling between work and her need to be at home. She got help and support from friends and family. She says firmly about her thought about internet relating to perspective of motherhood, which most mom talking and worrying.
“I will tell you what I can’t abide—and I think the Internet has really created a space for it—women criticizing other women and mothers criticizing other mothers. It just makes me crazy, whether it’s between staying at home, going to work, how long you breast-feed, if you use formula. I feel like we should just assume everyone is doing the best they can. Women should take care of each other, not tear each other down. I would just like to see a mother who really believes that she has done it all so right, you know what I mean?”
Realize the tense of find the balance to be with children and satisfied her inner needs in acting, she can’t compalin. She says, “The mix is perfect for me, I am the model middle child. I am patient and I like to take care of everyone. Being called nice is a compliment. It’s not a boring way to describe me.”
