None of parents are wanting some bad things happens to their children, but sometimes for several parents have to be faced the bad thing have to fight and change that.
Bryan Dattilo was not easy to accept when he found that his son, Gabriel, 9 ½ years old, was diagnosed with moderate autism toddler. Bryan and his ex wife, Jessica Denay, founder of Hot Moms Club, was told that their son would not be able to do certain things, such as real job, having wife or be main streamed.
He heared all those diagnosed, he was feeling angry “when the lady told us, and put all these labels on him and kind of limited him.” He admits he also felt “responsible” that his son wouldn’t “have the kind of life that he would enjoy.”
Having autism to your child is not the end of anything, we could help him to be able learning and facing the world, with love and affection. It need an extra strength indeed. Bryan was having a hard time to ‘Gabe’ when he was younger, he was unable to make eye contact or express himself. “You found yourself giving and giving and you weren’t really getting much back compared to the normal way a child could share affection and show appreciation,” Bryan notes. After his experiences, the 37-year-old actor “totally feel[s]” for parents dealing with an autism diagnosis, and offers them some advice:
“Realize that you never know what the future is going to hold, so the more you work with a child, it might not seem like you’re getting a lot back at the time, but five or six years down the road, when your child is main-streamed and totally accepted as ‘normal,’ then that’s the rewarding part. As long as you catch it early and don’t give up, there is hope.”
Living in his own world, Bryan always try to break him with game from his repetitve behavior. the helping daddy set out his work to be close to Gabe. He explains, “because a lot of autistic children have repetitive behavior, whether it’s repeat[ing] something quite a bit or a physical gesture that they have to do to make themselves comfortable.”
So nice to hear his love to his son and his dreams for Gabe. He is strong dad. There was a time when Gabe “turned the corner” at age five, Bryan shares. “Luckily, the early intervention helped and working with him helped and he’s now main-streamed, and next year he’s going into fourth grade and he won’t need any special classes anymore,” Bryan has high hopes for his son related to future, including in love, marriage and children and more that he could imagine today.
“I hope that he hits the game-winning home run for the Chicago Cubs against the New York Yankees in the World Series,” Bryan says. Whether or not Gabe will add “big brother” to his list of accomplishments remains to be seen, however. “I’m so bad with the marriage thing,” Bryan admits. “I’m still scared about that.” He appears to have some time to make up his mind, however, for Gabe “doesn’t really ask about” siblings.
“He’s chill with being the only child. He thinks the dogs are kids. He says, ‘Sal’s my brother? Seamus is my brother.’ But I definitely will have kids and he’ll be a great older brother.”
The Days of Our Lives star also feels it was beneficial that Gabe never learned of his diagnosis. “I don’t want him to view himself as different,” he explains. “I think part of the thing that’s really working with him is the fact that he doesn’t know and doesn’t have that to fall back on as an excuse.”
“It’s such a hard thing to do because I don’t want to bring it to his attention until he’s ready to hear it.”
Bryan finally find the best friend in his son, and som uch renjoying his time together with Gabe. He discribe himself as a lucky man.
“I get to see him a lot and as soon as I get off work today, he’ll be there waiting for me.”
“I get to pick him up at school, so for me that’s the best. We love our time together.”
Wow, it is about a loving daddy who has so much love, caring, strength and believe to his son. Having an autism child is not the meaning the world has end. There’s something behind all of that. All we have to just fight, and be stronger in love, care, affection, strength, bigger heart everyday.
